Dr. Ruth: No Music During Sex, Please!

This episode originally aired March 4, 2007.

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Sunday, August 01, 2010

The noted sex therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer appears as Gilbert Kaplan’s guest on “Mad About Music.” But surprisingly, Dr. Ruth is against playing music during sex.

“Not during sex or not during talking about sex! I want everyone to concentrate on lovemaking. It also permits fantasies to develop if you don’t have background music,” she says.

Still she allows that if others conclude that “Boléro is an aphrodisiac, let them listen.”

Her favorite conductor is Zubin Mehta with whom she once danced after a concert: “Superb…one of the highlights of my life.” Watching the way he conducts, she concluded that “there is no question that by the movement -- by the hand motion and the motion with the head…he is probably a good lover.”

Her favorite composers are Mozart, Beethoven and Haydn, especially his Emperor String Quartet, but regrets it provides the music for the German National Anthem – emphasized during the Nazi era.


Johannes Brahms Wiegenlied: Guten Abend, gut Nacht, Op. 49, No. 4. [Lullaby]. Boston Pops. Arthur Fiedler. RCA 61489.

Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart Serenade in G, KV 525 “Eine kleine Nachtmusik.” First Movement. Academy of St. Martin in the Fields. Sir Neville Marriner. Philips 464022.

Franz Joseph Haydn Quartet for Strings in C major, Op. 76, No. 3 “Emperor.” [Excerpt] Emerson String Quartet. Deutsche Grammophon 445598.

“Das Lied der Deutschen.” Slovak Radio Symphony Orchestra. Peter Breiner. Naxos / Marco Polo 8.225321.

John Williams Hatikvah [The Hope]. John Williams, conductor. From “Munich” soundtrack. Decca 609302.

“Rejoice Ye with Jerusalem.” [Excerpt] Hungarian State Orchestra. Noam Sheriff. Cantor Joseph Malovany, tenor. Israel Music.

Andrew Lloyd Webber The Phantom of the Opera, “Music of the Night.” The original cast recording. Michael Crawford. Polydor 831 563-2.

Ludwig van Beethoven Symphony No. 9 in D minor, Op. 125 “Choral.” [Excerpt] New York Philharmonic. Zubin Mehta. New York Choral Artists. Marilyn Horne, mezzo; Margaret Price, soprano; Jon Vickers, tenor; Matti Salminen, bass. RCA 60477.


Dr. Ruth Westheimer

Comments [5]

KevinTran from LA

Nice post!

Jan. 13 2013 11:28 PM
Matt Z from Fort Myers, FL

I think the tone of Al Green's voice masks my inability to perform- auditory sensations are very closely connected to the pleasure spots in the brain. If you wanna talk about a turn off, let's discuss Dr. Ruth.

Aug. 14 2010 04:51 PM
frank from chicago

honestly classical music just doesnt get me in the mood

Aug. 14 2010 12:05 AM
BC from somewhere sexy

I don't believe she was saying it originated from the Nazi era; merely "emphasized" as verbatim from the article. But thank you for your input, instigator of snobbery.

Aug. 13 2010 03:37 PM
Frank Coffee from NYC

It's a pity that Dr. Ruth is permitted to perpetuate the ignorant notion that "Deutschland über alles" is a Nazi artifact. It dates, in fact, to 1848. See the following article:


Aug. 01 2010 09:40 PM

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